Bullying, Violence & Healthcare Reform

April 14th, 2010

Another teen has killed themselves due to being the victim of bullying.

We are demonstrating right now, in this country, that bullying is not only accepted, but a powerful political tactic and defended as a “constitutional right”.  I know what I am saying may not be popular, but I am tired of it and am speaking up.  That is what we are morally obligated to do. Regardless of what our opinions are on politics, health care reform or really anything, we do not need to resort to inciting violence or referring to ‘reloading’, etc. As a nation, we have criticized other nations for resorting to violence and threats and tapping into the deepest fears of others to promote personal gains at any cost.  We demonize the “other”.  Rather than discussion, we are battling.

So, why is bullying on the rise?  Are kids just doing what is considered more acceptable if someone isn’t what they want them to be?  If kids see adults dehumanize and threaten others with violence…even when the adults are elected officials, then how are our children to understand this behavior is unacceptable?

If adults are not willing to speak up, regardless of whether it is uncomfortable and will have consequences, then how will our children know to be empowered to speak up?  Bullying is tough.  It isn’t just one person.  It takes a group…of onlookers who do nothing, and others who side with the bully because they enjoy the power, or are afraid to be on the receiving end by speaking up.

Regardless of where we are on any political or social spectrum, we need to constantly remind ourselves of the kind of world we want to live in.  We can’t expect to help lift up other countries when we are using the same fear and violence tactics in our own country.  We have to teach our children and remind ourselves that there are many opinions, many gifts in one another and that respect and finding ways to bridge those are the best way to go through life and to create a better world.

We have choices about how to use our voices.  Let’s be the best human beings that we can.  Let’s light the way for the next generation.  Let’s make bullying, intolerance and hurtful actions and speech not an option anywhere or anytime. Let’s make differences of opinions not be a barrier, but an opportunity to become a more well-rounded community and to see things differently, even if you agree to disagree.  Let’s choose to make this world a more connected and compassionate place where all of our children (and adults) can flourish and grow.

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Testing and Treatment of Vitamin D is a Major Part of Obama Health Reform!

March 31st, 2010

Okay, so maybe it’s not in the bill, but it should be.  Vitamin D deficiency is easy to test and cheap to treat and it is estimated that over 80% of Americans are deficient.   On a weekly basis, we are collecting more solid evidence that something so simple could greatly improve health for a vast majority of Americans.  The newest research out this week has to do with Vitamin D deficiency and incontinence.

Incontinence…yep, the inability to hold ones urine.  It is one of those things people don’t like to talk about but is really quite common in about 25 million adult Americans.  Approximately 80% of sufferers are women.

So, what does Vitamin D have to do with this?  Well, Vitamin D deficiency has now been associated with incontinence.

And then the other piece of news is related to Vitamin D and winter flu’s.  This one supports the idea of appropriate levels and supplementation of Vitamin D in children leading to a significant decrease in winter flu and asthma incidence.

So, if you haven’t already, get your Vitamin D tested.

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Thoughts on Forgiveness

February 21st, 2010

This week is best said by those who said it best.  Lara

Mother Teresa’s Anyway Poem

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered;
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God;

It was never between you and them anyway.
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“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
-  Mahatma Gandhi
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“Compassion, forgiveness, these are the real, ultimate sources of power for peace and success in life.”
-  The Dalai Lama
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“Reconciliation is to understand both sides; to go to one side and describe the suffering being endured by the other side, and then go to the other side and describe the suffering being endured by the first side.”
-  Thich Nhat Hanh

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Have we lost the BETTER in “Bigger, Better, Higher, Stronger, Faster?”

February 14th, 2010


I love the Olympics. I have since I was a kid.  I believe in the dream that there are some things that can transcend our political differences and bring people together.  The Olympics and Para Olympics hold that promise.  Each country sends their athletically best to an arena where everyone knows and abides by the rules.  It is exciting to see the best of the best push themselves to be just a bit more.

But unfortunately, in the Olympic games of the present, competition is not just amongst the athletes.  There is another game being played out on a different level; an administrative level, with committees, countries and federations.  Canada spent over $22 million on the “Own the Podium 2010” campaign.  This was to push the idea that Canada would walk away with the most gold and other medals.

Although they mention ‘excellence’, it is very clear that the goal is to ‘win more medals than anyone else’.  More = Better.  Really?   But Canada is not alone.  They are riding the wave of ‘bigger and faster and more’ is better.  Every Olympics opening ceremony is striving to be bigger and more extravagant than the last.  Hosts are unabashed at trying to have the fastest and most difficult tracks and courses ever.

But there is a balance to be struck.  Is faster necessarily better?  Is bigger always better?  Why is more always better?  What if better is being able to be human, make mistakes and know how to adeptly compensate or correct a mistake in mid-run?

If you have a sliding track that creates “G-forces that collapse the body, rendering it difficult to control the sled”, as the investigating committee have described the Whistler bobsled & luge runs, it becomes virtually impossible to correct those mistakes.  Is that really a better track?  Or with skiing, as Lindsay Vonn put it, on the track she skied when she almost broke her back (which was fashioned like the Whistler ones in order to prepare her… sprayed with water and frozen), ‘It was like pond ice’. A host of athletes have been injured in training runs prior to the games, and are now unable to compete.  More is not necessarily better.  We need to get at the root of what this is really all about…

My solution?  Only host Olympics in nations that have virtually no chance of making it onto the podium. A country that sends their best year after year with pride and a sense of excellence and bridge building would make a gracious host indeed.  Have every nation contribute funding, according to some financial formula, to pay for the expenses.

Make sure the climate is appropriate for the games whether summer or winter.  Have experienced international sports committees oversee the development and safety of the facilities.  Have a comment period from athletes, which is taken into account and then respected.  If the best lugers in the world dubbed the turn where the recent competitor died as “50-50” in terms of whether they would be able to stay on their sled, and another competitor said she felt like ‘a lemming’ and ‘crash test dummy’, then something is wrong and the athletes saw it very clearly.  Allow equal access to all competitors, both foreign and home-based, enough of this ‘aggressively protected home court advantage.’

Maybe the tragic loss of life that cast a dark shadow on this Olympics can be eventually looked at as the beginning of making the Olympics not just safer, but better.  That would be a wonderful way to remember and honor this athlete, and to honor all athletes.

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Preventing the Disease of Discouragement

February 7th, 2010

Discourage:
1. To deprive of confidence, hope, or spirit.
2.
To hamper by discouraging; deter.
3.
To try to prevent by expressing disapproval or raising objections.

We all get hit by hard times or get hit hard sometimes.  Sometimes we are discouraged by our own spirit and thoughts.  Sometimes, it is by the world or by others.  The economy has left many discouraged, along with other feelings.  Family circumstances, work, relationships, parenting, our health, sometimes even just trying to find enough time in the day to get things accomplished.  I think the first definition is the most appropriate and allows us to spiral into a pit of discouragement and eventually despair.

What can you do to prevent the disease of discouragement?

Find ways to feel more in control.  Even if it seems insignificant. The human spirit uses this as food which grows exponentially, and that food nourishes and replenishes hope and confidence.  And with hope and confidence you can continue to move on.

  • Remind yourself daily of 3 things that are good about your life, and 3 things that are good about you.
  • Do something good for someone else every day….let them into traffic, let them go ahead of you in line at the store, buy them a cup of coffee, leave a tip, say something nice to a co-worker or the check-out person.  It doesn’t have to be big.  Over time you will feel better as you make positive change in the world…and you regain a sense of value and hope.
  • Or… do bigger things, such as: help someone else; work at a soup kitchen; donate to a charity; help someone at a store or at your school; help clean a community park with a local organization; make someone smile.  Doing these things plants seeds of hope and reaffirms your value and abilities and renews confidence.
  • Focus on what really matters
  • Watch this short video and know you are not alone and in good company.

“A problem is a chance for you to do your best.”   Duke Ellington

“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.”   Martin Luther King, Jr.

“I find hope in the darkest of days, and focus in the brightest. I do not judge the universe.” The Dalai Lama

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